Modesty will always be beautiful. That’s why a thousand page novel that takes us through every detail of every day will attract more dust than readers. When everything is laid bare, when the author drags us through five chapters of the first hour of Jane’s day….yeah, not going to finish. But if the writer can highlight the good stuff without patronizing me with every detail – I’m in.
This ran through my mind while watching Dancing with the stars the other night. One of the female dancers was draped in a few yards of red lace – and that was it. She put all her effort in creating sex appeal, revealing every detail she could get away with. There was no inner grace, nothing that said this dancer has a life beyond showing us her skin, nothing but “cast your vote for me because I’m giving you what I think you value most.” She showed more than I wanted to see, and it was demeaning. I bored quickly of her.
In comes Candace Cameron Bure. She dances and dresses more modestly than the others. She shows us the story in the dance. The judges don’t like her conservative stance and it often reflects in her scores, but she made it clear from the beginning that she would give respect to her husband and God. That gets my attention. She has a story to tell and it doesn’t involve stripping away her dignity.
She was recently named one of People Magazines 50 most beautiful people.
The stereotype for conservative women is full of dirty words like uptight, prudish, and fearful. Those are words from the voices that keep women objectified. Words from those who demand women “loosen up” and strip away their dignity…until these mockers get bored and decide that beauty is not in following the crowd, but in the woman who dances to the words of God:
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. Proverbs 31: 25-31